Friday, March 19, 2010

Let’s not be Boilers

Sorry – getting a bit serious today. I would like to share an article with you. I heard this story a long time ago and was reminded of it reading The Star archives online. It really makes one think. We all learn to deal with “the bad” if it creeps up on us over time or if we witness something over and over again. We become desensitised.

We need to be aware of the boiling pots in our lives and in the community around us and be reactive before it is too late. This applies to even the smallest, most unimportant things in life – not just serious issues as mentioned in the article. Go with your Gut.

(Article shortened)
They say if you take a pot of warm water and drop a frog into it, the frog will without hesitation jump out.

But if you put the frog in the pot of water and then gradually increase the heat, the frog will eventually boil in the water and die but won't jump out.

The crux of the matter is that if exposed to initial severe pain or shock, there is an immediate reaction to avoid it, but if the exposure is gradual, and persists over a period of time, the end result is death.

Often, we wonder why people who are abused over a period of time don't simply "jump out". The reason is simple: slowly, as their self-esteem becomes more and more eroded, they come to accept and almost to feel that they deserve the abuse.

I suspect it is for this reason that our internal alarm siren should be triggered the minute we are confronted with the wrong things in life, such as negativity, abuse, evil, etc. If we don't sound our alarm the first time we witness these and make an attempt to avoid the situation that triggered it, we might be confronted with the same situation over and over until we eventually get used to it and come to accept it.

Taking action should still come from a place of truth and with the intention to make better and not worse.

An equally important challenge is to examine our own lives to see if there aren't a few areas where we are being "boiled" like the frog. Areas where we have abdicated the responsibility to "jump" and sound the alarm.

Wednesday, March 17, 2010

Always Give Thanks


No, I am not going to get all religious on you (although I do believe in thanking the Big Man for all the things we sometimes take for granted; health, happiness, friends, family...)

I am talking about expressing appreciation to the folk who are “pioneers” in showing their support by being the first person on my Facebook Page and the first person to be a follower on my blog.

Round of applause goes to Carol (first follower) and Les (first fan)
Of course they just both happen to be members of the Glug Glug Wine Club so a bottle of “Live-a-Little” ravishing red seemed an appropriate gift for them, don’t you think?

Thursday, March 11, 2010

Welcome to my Blog

Thanks for stopping by. Why have I started this Blog? Why not? I love writing and I love sharing the idiosyncrasies of daily life so a blog is the answer.

Through my Outsourced Communications Facebook Page I share a lot of what I learn every day about Social Media and Public Relations which are my work passions. Here I would like to share more about Life – which is everyone’s passion (I hope!)

So – what will I be sharing? Firstly, let me do a quick “in a nutshell” introduction. I am 40 something and married to a wonderful man who we shall call Chicken Man. No, he is not scared of me and everything that moves – he works in the chicken industry as a sales rep. Find me anyone who can rabbit on about their work more relentlessly and with more passion than him and I will tell you to direct that person to an asylum.

We have a teenaged daughter. I thank you for your commiseration and condolences. She who shall be called The Alien is the most precious (and perplexing!) thing in my life. I am hoping that we could share some ideas as to how to get through this experience for which no guidelines are given – parenting a teenaged daughter. All assistance will be gladly received.

That then is my little family. We live in Durban, South Africa and are ably managed by our 3 cats and a Fox Terrier dog. I am an avid reader and have a penchant for good wines, great friends and excessive laughter. Talking of which – I am sure I will be sharing a lot about the wine club I belong to. The Ama Glug Glug Wine Club. A better tonic has yet to be invented.

So stop on by anytime and let’s chat. I can’t promise to write something everyday and I do sometimes leave my computer to do work and wife and mommy type things but I will get back to you as soon as those chores are done.
Chat soon